Dealing with wife and Children while on and off Testosterone Day 6

I have been struggling of late with keeping things together. I have a lovely wife and 3 beautiful young children. Despite having recently been diagnosed with Low T, Hypothyroid and Empty Sella, High Prolactin etc. I still have an awful lot going for me.

Hanging tough when things don’t go your way

When I have one of my’ the green hulk’ angry moments, it’s amazing at just how quickly I can blow my Temper. From zero to angry in 3 seconds flat. It sounds amusing but it can be about the most petty of things. Just WOE betide anyone that cuts me up while I’m driving!!

Road rage has nothing on me. Most importantly I know that this is ALL down to having Low Testosterone. Most people seem to think that it’s steroids that cause “roid rage” etc. Big hulking body builders roaming around with shnooks the size of hamsters getting all angry.

This is not necessarily the case. Only when excessive ‘Supraphysiological doses of Testosterone will cause Angry Man Syndrome, certainly not the ‘therapeutic’ amount that we take to restore our blood serum levels to what they should be.

I found that while I was actually on TRT I felt calmer than when I was Low T. Don’t get me wrong my levels on TRT were never really optimal. So when my levels went a bit haywire. That’s when I would start to lose my rag and throw my teddies out of the pram with people.

Low Testosterone and dealing with your wife and Children

Things are most likely not all champagne and roses,most likely you have been put off having sex and the intimacy has just taken a back seat. Preferring to sleep on the couch rather than engage in hide the salami. It’s not her fault, it’s yours. You will probably blame pressure at work or your ever expanding waistline. Chances are it’s Low Testosterone that’s cockblocking you!

Yep, You wouldn’t even know it, well at least not in the early days of being Low T. So your libido has crashed and things are kinda rough for you sexually. I was taken away for a romantic weekend and at the crucial moment. Not only could I not get a ‘shot off’ I couldn’t get it up. It would just not get really hard like it used to. We had to call it off.  I was so embarrassed. For over 12 years of marriage I had never failed to ‘get a shot off’ – one shot one kill. ALWAYS.  I had never NOT finished the job. I just didn’t know what to do, where to go from here.

Dealing with your Children and trying not to get angry at them.

Remember, It’s nobodies fault. Children naturally push the boundaries of behaviour. They don’t “Understand” that the way they behave can really send you into a tirade. It’s just what kids do! They don’t do it deliberately to annoy you, They love you as their Daddy and it can all get a little intense when you start taking out anger and bad moods on your family.

Tips to help deal with your Anger,

• Ask your partner to keep an eye on the kids and to intervene when things get too heated and she can see you getting uptight.
• Count to 10 before you open your mouth to tell them off. Think about what is a fair reaction and react proportionally.
• Bear in mind that it is you with a hormonal imbalance that has the issues, not your Children!
• Tell your children that you get angry more easily and that you love them just as you always have, that it’s not their fault.
• Try and spend more time with them so that you form a closer bond to help deal with the bad days.
• Give them a hug and kiss at bedtime. Often this alone has stopped me from doing something stupid on my ‘dark days’.

Remember that Anger problems will soon pass once you get your Hormones in Balance. Don’t beat yourself up over this.